Exploring Men’s Work and the Mankind Project

Up until a couple of years ago, I honestly had no interest in men’s work. I couldn’t understand the idea of spending time exclusively with men. I grew up with three older sisters, so I was very used to female energy, and I couldn’t see why removing that would be beneficial.

Then I read a book called No More Mr. Nice Guy, which had been recommended to me a few times. That book really opened my eyes to how much I’d been seeking validation from others, and how, in mixed spaces, I wasn’t always processing what was actually going on inside me.

So I decided to dip my toe in and attend a few men’s circles. Straight away, I could feel something was different. The space felt calming, grounding — I didn’t have to work as hard to “show up.” Over time, after attending a few retreats and workshops, I began to feel real shifts in how I showed up in life and in my relationships.

Now, after a few years of this work, I can say it’s been transformative. I’ve developed deep friendships and found a supportive community of men who are doing their inner work. That’s why I’m sharing this — not because there’s any benefit to me in recommending it, but because it’s genuinely changed my life.